Posted by: dreymer | April 28, 2006

girl, are you crushed?

then read this. i suppose it’s a good picker upper for the broken hearted, the confused, the unassured. also a lesson or a tip for the guys. how you like to view it, you are on your own. i’m not a big fan of oprah but i like the statements.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from  heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better. Never live your life for a man  before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not  treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you  along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is  you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch  of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If  something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than> you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.  He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the  bending...compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there  is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be  Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know  where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house.

Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully  commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.Keep him in your radar but get to know others.


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